Importance of Family Meal times

There is something sacred about gathering as a family for dinner. It is more than just sharing a meal—it is a time of connection, growth, and gratitude. Psalm 128 beautifully describes the blessings of a family that walks in the ways of the Lord, and I cannot help but reflect on how our simple dinner table in Cambodia has been a witness to God’s faithfulness in our lives.

Our dining table was a special gift from dear friends, Bernie and Nan, during our time at the Bible school (2011). Lovingly handcrafted, it has since become the heart of our home. Over the years, it has borne witness to meaningful conversations, Bible studies, discipleship moments, DIY crafts, kneading bread and cookies, times of prayer and counseling, discipline, nebulizing during David’s asthma attacks, marriage discussions, family meetings, and big decisions. It is here that we have laughed, cried, prayed, and grown together as a family.

1. The Value of Gathering at the Table

In Cambodia, mealtimes are traditionally about nourishment rather than conversation. My husband Vandy recalls that in his childhood, dinner was a serious time—everyone sat quietly on the bamboo floor, eating by the dim light of a gas lamp, with little to no conversation. The focus was on finishing the meal, not on engaging with one another.

However, we have learned that gathering at the table is more than just filling our stomachs; it is about connecting with each other. Each evening at 6:30 PM, no matter where we are or what we are doing, we come together to eat. This is our sacred time—no rush, no distractions, just the joy of being together.

Our teenage nephew (Pich), who has been living with us, has experienced this for the first time. He used to eat quickly and silently, clearing his plate before anyone else. But over time, he began to observe and engage. He started laughing at David’s funny stories and slowly opened up. Though he doesn’t speak much, I see that he listens, learns, and feels a sense of belonging. Vandy has become a father figure to him, and our family meals are teaching him the value of relationships and communication.

2. Connecting Our Spiritual Lives Intentionally

Psalm 128 reminds us that God blesses the household that walks in His ways. One way we apply this truth is by making our dinner conversations intentional. While not every meal has to be a deep theological discussion, we take time to share our thoughts, current events, and personal reflections. We ask each other questions, listen to different perspectives, and simply enjoy each other’s company.

David, our son, often leads the conversation. He loves narrating his experiences from school, and in doing so, he allows us to engage with his world. Through these discussions, we naturally instill values of kindness, faith, and wisdom. By simply talking and listening, we disciple our children in the ways of the Lord.

3. Creating Meaningful Habits That Shape Our Children

Family dinners are not always perfect. Sometimes, there is disagreement or chaos. Some nights, exhaustion settles in, and conversation feels forced. Yet, even in those moments, God is at work.

Vandy and his sister Kunthy take charge of the cooking, while David sets the table, and I joyfully do the dishes—a small act of service that allows me to reflect and pray over my family. These routines may seem ordinary, but they are shaping our children’s habits and values. They learn responsibility, teamwork, and the joy of serving others.

One of our favorite moments is when Kunthy experiments with new dishes. She eagerly presents them to us, asking for feedback. We laugh, taste, and enjoy the process of trying something new together. These simple, shared experiences strengthen our bond and create lasting memories.

4. Hospitality: Opening Our Home and Our Hearts

Psalm 128 speaks of the blessings that come from a God-centered home. One way we embrace this is through hospitality. Our dining table is not just for us—it is a place of welcome for friends, church members, and even strangers.

Food connects people. When we invite others to eat with us, we open our hearts to genuine relationships. We listen to their stories, share our lives, and encourage one another. Some of our most meaningful conversations have happened over a meal, and we pray that our children will carry this value with them into their own future homes.

Trusting God Even in the Chaos

Not every meal is peaceful. Sometimes, our different opinions spark debates. Other times, tiredness makes patience thin. Yet, we trust that God is working even in the chaos. He is using these moments to teach us grace, patience, and understanding.

Generational stories are passed down at the dinner table. As we share our lives with our children, we are sowing seeds of faith, love, and wisdom that will bear fruit in the generations to come.

A Simple Prayer for Our Family and Others

Psalm 128 reminds us that a home built on God’s principles is a blessed one. Family dinners may seem like a small thing, but they are powerful in shaping our relationships, values, and faith. In the fast-paced world we live in, may we never take for granted the beauty of gathering, sharing, and growing together. Whether in Cambodia or anywhere in the world, may our homes reflect the love and peace of Christ, one meal at a time.