Insensitive!

I have a husband that loves me enough to correct my mistakes and help me fill in my shortcomings. Unfortunately, sometimes I don't appreciate it. I forgot and ceased that he is my accountability partner. I failed to recognize it a few days ago. I let my pride and went over on taking my rights. I became so critical on my husband's shortcomings as well. I was so foolish and acted silent treatment and disrespect action toward Vandy 😓😌

Kiss and make up! Reconciled 💞😅👫

You know daily encounter with God does really help in times like this. My unpleasant character would resurface and would come and go at times. And it will really be impossible not to experience God's "heart surgery" on me. Yep, that loving correction started over my solitude with God. I will never be able to refuse His gentle reminder that my selfish action toward my husband wasn't honoring. It gets into my heart that I felt uncomfortable not dealing with it. My pride managed to creep again. 

But I praise God for helping me realized to assume responsibility toward my foolish action. I admit my pride won't be going anywhere. I repented and asked forgiveness from God, and I prayed to have the courage and humility to say "sorry" to Vandy after that. I'm glad he was delighted to forgive me and said he was actually just waiting for me to resolve this issue.

I am glad we were able to talk about these things and were able to resolve issues immediately. Being honest and open with our feelings made a difference all the time. This is a reminder to exercise humility in every situation. These verses would sum up what we experienced this week:

James 5:19-20 emphasizes the responsibility of Christians (in our case: as husband and wife) to lovingly correct others and also to love to receive correction. 

Philippians 2:3-4 encourages humility, valuing others above oneself, and not prioritizing one's own interests, rather than focusing on one's own.

Background:

So, ever since Vandy's 👉 colonoscopy procedure he started to change his eating habits and shifted to "all meat diet" which mostly composes of beef. We are all supportive of his better health no qualms about it, however the washing part and emanating odor of cooking/frying the meat is too much to handle. It's challenging to wash out the greasiness because the frying could only use oil fats! yikes! I was feeling frustrated one time and told my husband about it. So, he said, I can just leave the washing to Kunthy (my sister-in-law) which I gladly did. I didn't know that I sounded too complaining and it didn't register nicely to him.

I was not too understanding to his feelings; he actually misses eating vegetables and rice by now and didn't like eating meat which is really tough and chewy (tender steak cuts are expensive, so he opted to buy the cheaper tough meat instead) but what can he do he needs it for his health.

We had a holiday at school. Normally we would take that chance to spend time/dates together just us alone which we did. He brough me to the mall and let me do some window shopping. But I noticed he seemed not in the moment and would only show up if he needed to pay (he was always sitting around while waiting for me).  He even asked me if I was finished buying things that I need. I felt alone and unamused! 😒 that's when my silent treatment toward him started. Again, I was so insensitive (he actually felt physically weak to walk with me around)

My husband told me to watch out my sugar intake and manage my weight since we are not getting younger. He requested if we should refrain buying breads and baking brownies for the meantime. Obviously, I didn't obey and still bought my favorite croissants and even baked more cookies at home. I thought he was too mean to tell me indirectly that I am bigger/fatter than before. Why he has to limit us eating breads now??! I know I was unreasonable again. 

Here are the baked cookies for David (one of the reasons I argued with Vandy about)

Chocolate croissants that I love eating! (I fought because of this!!)

I think I might have shared a similar post about Vandy and I fixing our differences on Philippians 2:3-8 👉 Are dates still important?