How to Raise a Tech-Savvy and Spiritually-Grounded Child in Cambodia?
In today’s digital age, managing screen time and gadget use is one of the biggest challenges parents face. Raising David, our 11-year-old son who is on the autism spectrum, has taught us the importance of setting clear boundaries, modeling discipline, and integrating biblical principles into his daily routines. While technology has many benefits, we have been intentional about managing its impact on his development, emotions, and faith journey.
One of the key lessons we have taught David is delayed gratification. Many children today expect to have their own gadgets at a young age, but we have established early on that he will only get his own phone when he reaches 16 or 18. This is not just a rule—it’s a principle that teaches responsibility, self-control, and the value of earning something rather than receiving it instantly.
In Hebrews 12:11, we are reminded: "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." Teaching delayed gratification aligns with this truth. Though it may seem unfair to David at times, he understands that waiting builds character and wisdom. By setting this expectation, he is learning that contentment and patience are more valuable than instant pleasure.
Since David was three years old, we have implemented a structured routine that he still follows diligently. Discipline has become a key foundation in his daily life, and it has helped him navigate emotions, expectations, and responsibilities.
Proverbs 22:6 emphasizes this well: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." The habits we instill in childhood will shape the way children manage their lives in adulthood. David’s routine includes study time, outdoor play, prayer, and controlled screen time. Because of this structure, he understands that gadgets are a privilege, not a necessity.
The Peace That Passes All Understanding: Managing Emotions
Children, especially those on the spectrum, experience emotions intensely. We have taught David to express and regulate his feelings using a simple scale of 1-10. This helps him identify how he feels and allows us to address his needs appropriately.
When he feels overwhelmed, Philippians 4:6-7 is our guide: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
We encourage David to pray when he is frustrated or anxious. A short and simple prayer helps him acknowledge his emotions and turn to God for peace. For example, when he is upset about not getting more screen time, we remind him to pause, reflect, and pray for understanding.
Giving Choices: Encouraging Decision-Making and Self-Control
Children thrive when they have options, even within limits. One effective strategy we use with David is giving him two choices. For example, when we go to Aoen mall, instead of freely choosing from everything, he can pick between ice cream or potato corner fries. This method teaches him decision-making skills while still maintaining boundaries.
This principle aligns with Galatians 5:22-23, which talks about the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. By allowing him to make decisions within limits, we are helping him develop self-control and gratitude instead of frustration over not getting everything he wants.
Replacing Complaints with Gratitude
Children naturally complain when they don’t get what they want, but we are teaching David to shift his perspective. Instead of focusing on what he lacks, we encourage him to be thankful for what he has. When he complains about limited screen time, we redirect his attention to the fun activities he enjoys, like playing chess with friends or baking cookies.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 reminds us: "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." By instilling gratitude, our son is learning to appreciate life’s blessings rather than dwelling on what he doesn’t have.
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Set Clear Boundaries & Stick to Them – Establish specific rules about when, where, and how gadgets can be used. Whether it’s a 30-minute limit per day or only using devices on weekends, consistency is key. **David's screentime is only on weekends from Friday afternoons until Sundays (both for watching movies & laptop game use)
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Use Gadgets as a Reward, Not a Right – Teach children that screen time is a privilege, not a given. Encourage them to complete homework, chores, or reading time before using devices.
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Encourage More Offline Activities – Engage children in alternative activities like sports, building, baking, or board games to reduce dependency on screens.
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Model Healthy Digital Habits – Children learn best by example. If we, as parents, are constantly on our phones, our children will mirror our behavior.
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Pray Together About Digital Temptations – As technology advances, so do distractions. Pray with your child, asking God for wisdom in managing screen time and using gadgets responsibly.
Final Thoughts: Raising a Child in Faith and Discipline
Raising David with structured guidance in gadget use is not just about limiting screen time—it’s about shaping his character, faith, and perspective on life. As Christian parents in Cambodia, we recognize the influence of modern technology, but we also know the power of discipline, prayer, and biblical principles.
By instilling habits of gratitude, patience, and obedience to God’s wisdom, we are preparing David not just for responsible gadget use, but for a life that honors God in all aspects. Let’s continue to be intentional in raising children who not only navigate the digital world wisely but also walk in faith and purpose every day.
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